Will my pet dog be sad when my foster pet dog gets adopted?

I remember when I dropped off my foster pet dog Cosmo to his new home, I debated bringing my mutt Ace along for the ride. considering that Cosmo had lived with us for five months, I wanted to supply Ace with some closure. I wanted him to see where Cosmo was going.

Instead, I ended up leaving Ace home that day. I knew my mutt would’ve been ecstatic about a road trip, and I didn’t want that energy to make Cosmo nervous.

I didn’t try to describe anything to Ace and Cosmo before we left. I didn’t encourage them to play one last time. I didn’t encourage them to look at each other or say goodbye in any way.

Cosmo and I just left.

I’m pretty sure Ace gave Cosmo no thought as we drove away.

I also know Cosmo was not thinking about Ace during our drive to his new home, once we arrived or once I left.

When I returned to Fargo without Cosmo, Ace did not act differently. He wasn’t sad that Cosmo was gone. He wasn’t ecstatic to be an only pet dog again. He was 100 percent neutral, as though the fostering experience with Cosmo had never happened.

I know some people will be angered by these statements. how could I “pretend” my pet dog is not sad? how could I neglect his feelings?

We live in a world where people need to believe animals experience the same emotions as us.

Instead, I try my best to accept my family pets for what they are – animals. I treat them with respect by acknowledging they are not the same as me.

Ace would’ve took pleasure in a road trip with Cosmo and I that Friday, but he certainly did not need any closure. He did not need to say goodbye to Cosmo.

Dogs come and go from our house often. Some stay for a few hours or a few days. Some stay for a week or a few months. The length of time is not relevant for Ace. Dogs come and go, and that’s that.

Although Ace can probably read my emotions better than anyone, he didn’t seem affected by the minor feeling of loss I expressed when I returned from Wahpeton without Cosmo.

I knelt down and gave Ace a hug the minute I walked through the door. He accepted the hug and was there for me, but neither of us lingered in sadness.

Each person who fosters dogs says goodbye differently

Many foster owners become emotionally attached to their foster dogs and will cry and feel depressed when the dogs get adopted. There’s nothing wrong with that. we all express our emotions differently.

Just remember that if you are sad, your pet dog will act accordingly. He will mope around simply because you are moping around. He probably doesn’t miss the foster pet dog as much as you think.

The day Cosmo god adopted, my fiance Josh did not say goodbye to him.

Initially, this made me sad. Why wouldn’t Josh want to say goodbye to a pet dog we’d lived with for five months?

But it makes a lot more sense now.

Josh and Cosmo did not have much of a bond just as Ace and Cosmo did not have a bond.

Like Ace, Josh sees a lot of dogs coming and going and the length of time they are here is not relevant. He doesn’t form emotional connections with them the way I do. He cares about them and wants the best for them, but kneeling down and kissing a pet dog on the head is not something Josh would even think of.

The interactions between Cosmo and Josh were minimal.

Every few days or so, Cosmo would specifically choose to sit next to Josh. He’d wait next to him, panting, until Josh scratched him behind the ears.

In return, Josh would also make the point to kneel down next to Cosmo every few days. He would find him napping in a corner somewhere, pet him on the back and tell him he was a good boy.

They had a basic relationship – a good one – and neither had any reason to say goodbye.

Will my pet dog miss my foster dog?

Although my pet dog absolutely does not miss any of our foster dogs, this may not be the case with all dogs.

Some dogs do miss one another very much. Some dogs form intense bonds with their foster “siblings.” Ace and Cosmo did not have that kind of bond. They never played or even acknowledged one another. They went for walks together, but they associated that excitement with the actual walk, not with spending time together.

Other dogs become best buds. They play all the time or nap on top of one another or feel some sort of love.

One of my pet sitting customers told me she brought her younger pet dog into the room too when their older pet dog was euthanized. I told her I thought that was an admirable choice. If I had two dogs with a similar bond, I would do the same. often dogs do need closure.

But when it pertains to our foster dogs, Ace needs no closure. He doesn’t need to see where they end up. He doesn’t care.

It’s unlikely Ace thinks about Cosmo at all. He might catch a remainingscent every now and then. maybe he picks up a whiff in the back of the kennel. maybe a lingering piece of American Eskimo hair causes him to pause.

This is a basic part to my pet dog I appreciate. There’s no drama to it. He just moves on.

Did your pet dog get sad when your foster pet dog got adopted?

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